A Dear John Letter, It’s About Time…

Dear John,

Since I met you i’ve felt a deep but oddly unnatural connection. A sort of one way co-dependency if you can grasp my meaning.

Our entire relationship seeming has been about you, day after day, year after year. A never ending onslaught of demands for attention, and unbending deadlines.

At first everything was a rush to reach the next. There was little patience to enjoy the bounties of beginnings, the excitement of discovery. Always pushing, you seemed almost angry if we stood still for even a moment to embrace the fullness of the experience.

Throughout the years we have had our fair share of ups and downs, to be sure. But what I remember most is your forceful instance that we were in a hurry, a rush into the next.

You are like an alarm clock blaring, shattering the experience, screeching like nails on a chalkboard – the unmistakeable display of your frustration that this experience has gone on too long – your demand that it must come to an abrupt end.

I stare unfocused in amazement how it is only now, after so many years, that I recognize the seductive manipulation you’ve used. You have enticed me and nearly everyone around us to be your unwitting soldiers of enforcement for your bizarre agenda.

That needs to be finished by friday…

What time will you be here…

It’s almost the end of the month…

I haven’t heard from you…

The same message from so many different voices, echoing your constant demand that you get your way, now, or else. Crafty you, to have so far a reach… as if you are not bound by the very rules you impose.

After so many years together I find your demands growing still. Pushing now on the opposite end, as if to contradict the first message to grow up so fast. You seem obsessed now with concerns for what we missed before, somehow forgetting that it was you who couldn’t abide a moment longer.

What sort of strange disorder has overcome you that after so many years, you wish we would have stayed a little longer, but still push to depart even now? Your 24-karat jeweled gift adorning my wrist, a token that you care so much, but ticking in disgust as the moments past like the tap of an impatient foot.

I find that our relationship feels nothing more than the sum of moments. It’s an empty feeling, like a measurement of nothing – a cup full of empty. I want to feel the sum of experiences, to fill the cup and laugh as the richness of life overflows its limits and only then becomes the next.

It’s about time then… We’ve been together for so many years, and with both a solemn endearment and a joyful realization, I must insist we divorce in intimacy and be… just friends.

I’ve taken the liberty of gathering your things and while it seems ironic that i use one of your tactics… It feels appropriate that I impose a deadline to pick them up. Knowing you don’t like to play by your own rules, I’ve placed them in the trash can.

The garbage is picked up on Tuesday, best pick them up by then.

Im nearly certain you’ll agree that It’s about time.

Your x



  1. Prochorei says:

    Hello Ray,

    I love your works. Great thing you’re doing. I’d really appreciate if you can elaborate on your ‘if time is a measurement, an hour of what…?’ I have an understanding of it. But I want something deeper.

    I’d like to stay in constant touch with you. Thank you.

    P.S: Please reply soon.

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  3. RaZ says:

    : ) time, space certainly omnipotent beings, always giving just the right space and right time that belong to us, not many can see that. Well enjoy your time and place. We will be watching you !!! 😛 😀 or maybe not, who knows.

    P.s. afterall, space and time certainly give us our time and place, doesn´t mean we need to take it, afterall we are just pointing out a small fact to make your life more fluid… or static 😉

  4. Joyful Journey says:

    Thank you for this reminder as we get back into the fall frenzy of “back to school” routines, deadlines and schedules and thank you for giving me pause to reflect. Finding the balance is key as you note, with the garbage being taken away on Tuesday. We do live in a world of scheduled bliss (for lack of a better word) but we do have the choice to make every moment our own. Now to do it!

  5. Ashok says:

    Loved this Ray!

    I had read a wonderful book last year called “The Timekeeper”: http://www.amazon.com/The-Time-Keeper-ebook/dp/B0087JTAKW/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1377992159&sr=1-3&keywords=time.

    It’s about “Father time”, the first human to consider the notion to count moments as “time”… and the “curse” it creates on himself and the world. It’s a fascinating story, but it touches deeply on the chains of time within our life and the world.

    Your post and video was so incredible… and it brought me back to the way I felt after reading that book. The “breakup” storytelling of a concept that is so dear to many of our lives.

    Loved it Ray! 🙂

  6. Normally I do not read post on blogs, however I would like to say that this write-up very forced me to try and do so! Your writing style has been amazed me. Thanks, quite great post.

  7. Glillomssuina says:

    nice post. thanks.

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